Marriage is an institution that you can say has been common to man for a long time. Man says to woman, “will you marry me?” She says “yes”, they get married and then the two become one. When God joins man and woman, I don’t think he’s particularly joining their networking profiles too.
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You’ve seen them haven’t you?
The phenomenon occurs when two consenting adults willingly create their profiles as one person when they get married. Social Networks were really meant for individuals. Yet, you have two persons who create a single profile representing both of them. To each, his own. But I have some questions..
..how do you manage the following:
- What gender do you put up?
Is it male or female? Sadly there aren’t any other options available on the sites today. Maybe in the future who knows? It’s really funny when you’re writing on the wall and addressing the Man and the gender is female. “Hey man, what’s up? Did you see that Jolie in SALT? She’s the bomb!”. Might not make you roll over and laugh but it’s just ridiculous.
- How do you manage your Birthdays?
If there are two people, it’s likely that they have two birthdays. So who’s birthday do you put up? Or do you keep changing it every time one person’s birthday is over? It’s silly when you’re wishing someone who has joint name, and you don’t know if it’s the guy’s birthday or the gal’s.
If you have to add in your parents, what do you do? The networks usually allow only two parents. Does the Husband’s come in or the wife’s?
Who’s online? How do we know whom we’re chatting with? A singer friend of mine who has a joint profile is quite unreachable during the week. On seeing her online, I send her an IM. But it’s actually her husband on there. Once again, there’s confusion.
I won’t put down every detail of a joint profile – events, invitations, wall posts etc. so long as you get the point:-
You see, basically joint profile create misunderstandings, they don’t help in communication and can also be difficult to handle.
Check this one out as an example:
Bob N Nihara : Last night in cape town
Comment: Oh so you two are here?
Bob N Nihara: No, no, only Nihara is there with our son, I’m still in the states.
What about Individual Opinion?
When you keep profiles separate each person’s status update is attributed to him or her. When you post an update on a joint profile, people assume that both of you have the same thought about something, which might not be the case. I know a couple whose husband posted an update on Jethro Tull and she didn’t exactly support that thought. They had it removed eventually.
A joint profile looks cute. But it is rather impractical. Two people can display their love, commitment or whatever in a similar way, if not better, with a separate profile. And at the same time they can both retain their individuality. Having said all this, it’s really up to the couple to decide what they want to do.
What do you think of Joint profiles?